notes on being unruly

This one’s for all my diasporic and immigrant peeps! You know that feeling of always being ‘not Asian enough’ when you’re in Asian communities but ‘too Asian’ in other spaces? Or the other way around: Not British / American / White enough wherever you’re living but too ‘western’ when you’re with your Asian family?
My guest this week, Rakhee Verma, and I get into all that: cultural identity, family and community expectations, what it means to be belong or identify with one culture or another and that messy, infuriating but wonderful experience of always living between worlds.
We get into:
Confessions about the parts of our culture we felt embarrassed by and later, rediscovering pride in them
What it means to ‘be British’ today
The subtle and not-so-subtle ways we're made to feel different
Challenging family expectations around education, marriage and what a successful life should look like.
The tension between individual freedom and family responsibility, particularly when it comes to caring for ageing parents.
Accent shame, code-switching and the different versions of ourselves we learn to present in different environments
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> Connect with Rakhee on on LinkedIn> Learn more about what Rakhee does on her website: Tigris Consulting & Mediation> Rakhee’s podcast Brenda You’re on Mute
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Solution-focused hypnotherapist Jess Johansson joins me on the pod this week. She shares her journey from chronic shyness, grief and a mysterious health crisis to a fuller understanding of exactly how the mind affects the body; and how tuning into that connection can help us to shift from merely surviving to fully thriving and tangibly move closer to the things we want for our lives. In this convo, we explore safety, boundaries, body wisdom, and the small shifts that can completely change how we live and work.
We get into: 
- Jess’s journey from being a very shy child to finding her voice- The health crisis that made her question the way she was living and coping- What the “survival brain” can teach us about symptoms, stress and protection- Moving from fighting the body to becoming curious about what it might be communicating- Bringing together body wisdom and a neuroscience-informed perspective- The power of small shifts over forcing large transformation
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Wellbeing and rest coach Emma Longbottom joins me in this episode to refine rest as one of the most rebellious things we can do for ourselves (and the world!). We explore how busyness, productivity and exhaustion have become so deeply embedded in how we live and work, and how we can start to resist these pressures to bring more rest into our days.
We talk about:
Emma’s journey from corporate burnout to becoming a rest mentor
How our identities have become so tied to work and productivity
What it means to make rest a rebellious act
Why stopping can feel so uncomfortable (and how to feel better about that discomfort)
Micro-rest, pre-emptive rest and finding ways to interrupt the cycle of depletion
How rest helps and heals more than just the physical body
🎧 When you’re ready to stop barrelling through your days and finally allow in that deep rest, this episode is right here for you.
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Purchase Emma’s book Why Prioritising Rest Will Change Your Life: Join the Rest Revolution!
Get Emma’s free 10 Minute Rest Reset here
Access free Yoga Nidra practices and meditations on Emma’s YouTube: youtube.com/@Wellbeing-with-Emma
Website: wellbeingwithemma.com/
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For real, you don’t need any more advice from ‘experts’; you’re already the expert on your own biz! Wealth expansion and spiritual business coach Sonya Highfield joins me to chat all things intuition, wealth and wellbeing in business. What a gorgeous, uplifting convo we’ve had, looking at all that becomes possible when we stop forcing ourselves into someone else’s idea of success and when we give ourselves permission to fully trust our intuition over all the noise outside of us.
We dive into:
What intuitive business coaching actually looks like for each one of us
How to trust your own intuition when there are so many external voices telling you what you “should” do
The types of success that become possible when we allow ourselves to experiment, rather than just following the “right” strategy
Giving yourself permission to build a business that fits your capacity, ethics and wellbeing
The definition of wealth as “the condition of wellbeing”, which includes money, physical and mental health and relationships
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🌟 Connect with Sonya
Website: www.realworldcreatives.com
Tune into Sonya’s Wealthy in Pajamas Podcast
Follow Sonya on Instagram: @realworldcreatives
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Let’s get riskyyyy! Libby Duffy joins me to talk about being audacious and what that really means: taking risks, bold decisions, having the courage to “show off your weird!”
We also talk about shadow work, social media overwhelm and how to discover what “being yourself” actually looks like when we’re constantly bombarded by messages on what to be.
In this episode, we discuss:
What "audacity" really means and why so many of us struggle to claim it
How to build self-trust without waiting to feel 100% certain
Breaking up (temporarily) with social media
Demystifying shadow work (it’s a lot simpler than we think!)
The trap of trying to become a perfectly healed human
How to "microdose spontaneity" and bring more play into your life
Creating offers that reflect you rather than copying everyone else
Why your weirdness might be your greatest asset
It’s time to get a little more audacious, my friends, so that when people talk about how weird you are, you take it as a compliment. This episode will get you started.
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Join Libby’s The Audacity of Her 5-Day Challenge: https://payhip.com/b/Mjk9V
On Instagram: @thespellswetellourselves
The Spells We Tell Ourselves podcast
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We’re all so ready to start breaking those rigid rules around food. Nutritionist Kate Wall unpacks how “healthy eating” can slip into socially acceptable disordered patterns. We explore the patterns of food policing shame and the unhelpfulness of restrictive rules, and what it looks like to eat in a way that actually matches your life.
We talk about:
When “healthy eating” becomes socially acceptable disordered eating
The many forms of food policing: external, internal, and invisible
How shame fuels the restrict–crave cycle
Why it feels so exhausting to live by rigid food rules
Moving from food rules to flexible, values-led guidelines
Letting go of morality around food (good vs bad, earned vs burned)
Rebuilding self-trust through small, consistent choices
What it looks like to eat in a way that actually matches your life, not the one you think you should be living
Countering fear-based narratives around ultra-processed foods
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🍓 Connect with Kate
Join the Nourish and Flourish Community
Follow @katewallnutrition on Instagram
Connect on Facebook
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Kate’s website: www.katewallnutrition.co.uk
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